Who's the Boss? Taking Charge of Your Emotions
Emotions… they aren’t inherently bad or good. They actually shouldn’t be judged at all. We often separate our emotions into two categories: “bad” or “good.” For example, emotions like anger, sadness, and fear are often seen as bad, while happiness, contentment, and excitement are labeled as good. But emotions are just that—emotions. They exist inside us, and they’re a part of what makes us human. They help us connect to others, explore the world around us, and respond to it in meaningful ways.
But what happens when our emotions take the lead? When they overpower us and push us into behaviors that don’t align with who we are or how we want to live? For example, when sadness traps us in the past and causes us to neglect our present selves, it can start to feel a lot like depression. Or when fear takes over and creates rigid belief systems or rituals that consume our thoughts, leaving us unable to focus on what’s happening here and now. Maybe anxiety steps in, overwhelming us with “what-ifs” and unrealistic scenarios until we can’t enjoy the present moment.
Emotions become a problem when we forget who’s really in charge. Maybe anxiety promised to protect you after a traumatic event, convincing you that it could keep you safe if you followed its rules. Maybe depression showed up because you regretted a decision or tied your self-worth to your mistakes. These emotions might feel like they’re helping you, but they don’t have the power to protect, fix, or heal. That power belongs to you.
It’s your responsibility to notice when your emotional health is impacting your life and take steps to make a change. For example:
If anxiety is constantly nagging you, gently remind it that you are capable of handling life without its rituals or constant worry. Try grounding exercises, like deep breathing or focusing on something you can see, touch, hear, and smell, to bring yourself back to the present moment.
If depression is keeping you stuck in the past, acknowledge your sadness and allow yourself to feel it. Journaling or speaking with a trusted person can help you process it. But after sitting with those feelings, make a choice not to let depression lead your life. Take one small step forward, even if it’s as simple as getting outside or practicing gratitude for something small in your day.
For some, these changes may come easier than for others. If you find that your emotions feel too overwhelming to manage on your own, there’s no shame in reaching out for support. Whether it’s therapy, medication, or other resources, you deserve the tools and help needed to live a happy and healthy life.
Emotions are complicated, and life is hard. But you have everything you need to take back control. You may need time, support, and patience, but it’s possible. You don’t have to let fear, sadness, or worry dictate how you live your life. You are in charge, and you deserve to live in a way that aligns with your goals, values, and happiness.